I am currently about half way through the book Women, Food and God by Geneen Roth, and so far it doesn’t dissappoint. I have been a fan of Geneen for a little while now. I have read many of her books, and all of them discuss how to prevent overeating by eating intuitively. Geneen struggled with annorexia, bulemia and overeating in her past. She had gained and lost close to a thousand pounds by the time she was in her thirties. She writes in a way that makes you feel as though she is speaking to you, directly to your heart. You may find yourself stopping and saying to yourself “How does she know that?” “I thought I was the only one who did that.”
I think the piece that I finally was able to make the connection with is realizing that when we are struggling with our weight, when we are fighting fat and punishing ourselves for not being perfect-whatever that is, that is where our energy is going, but that is not where our power is. Stick with me for a second… Awhile ago, I saw this piece on Oprah about women and self- defense, and what to do, God forbide, you are attacked. The thing I remember most from that show was a tip about not using your energy to fight your attacker initially, because you most likely will not be able to overcome him on strength. The expert tip was to wait until your attacker takes his hands off of you for one reason or another – that’s your chance to attack- that’s when you have the power.
So let me bring it back to how this relates to you and wanting to lose weight. You will not be able to move forward until you accept the way you are now. Because if you don’t accept where you are now, if you don’t accept your body at the shape it is now, you will be putting so much energy into forcing your body into submission, you will stress yourself out so much focusing on hating your body, you won’t be able to lose the the very weight you are fighting with.
It is only when you stop struggling with a force that is stronger than you, that you begin to have the upper hand. With acceptance, you stop living in the world of shoulds (the past) and start moving towards the future. When you stop stressing about how you don’t look the way you want to, that’s your chance to use your power. When you stop feeling as if you are not whole, that you are somehow defective, you will lose your desire to try to feel whole by overeating.
A quote from the book, ” Eventually, we get so tired of trying to fix ourselves that we stop. We see we have never been able to accomplish ourselves into someone else…No one is keeping score…Eventually, we see that it was the investment in the brokeness, the constant effort to fix ourselves, that was the very thing that kept the wholeness at bay. If you think your job is to fix what is broken, you keep finding more broken pieces to mend”
Begin this weekend by noticing how often you struggle withyourself, how much energy are you wasting?